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I once watched a colleague secure a new project lead role—not just because of her technical skills, but because of the network she had built quietly over time. She knew who to approach for advice, who could champion her ideas, and who had influence in decision-making circles. Her success wasn’t accidental; it was the result of informal relationships she nurtured consistently, often outside formal meetings or performance reviews.

Research shows that informal networks (mentorship, sponsorship, and social connections) play a critical role in career advancement. Women, however, are less likely than men to access these networks. Social norms, organizational culture, and even simple patterns of exclusion from informal gatherings or casual conversations can limit opportunities to build relationships that matter for visibility, promotions, and influence.

The key is intentionality. Networking isn’t about attending every event or collecting contacts; it’s about cultivating meaningful connections. Observing women who succeed professionally highlights strategies that work: regular check-ins with mentors, offering support before asking for it, sharing credit, and seeking allies in influential roles. These relationships create visibility and credibility, allowing women to access opportunities that might otherwise remain hidden.

It’s also about making networks inclusive. Women can benefit from advocating for others, amplifying peers’ contributions, and ensuring informal spaces, like coffee chats or project lunches, are accessible to all. This not only strengthens the community but also reinforces the habit of reciprocal support, which fuels career growth over time.

Ultimately, informal relationships are often as important as formal achievements. Recognizing their value, approaching them strategically, and building genuine connections can make the difference between a career plateau and sustained professional advancement.